Ten years ago, the happiness, freedom and inner peace I have today were unthinkable...
That’s because for such a long time I had felt utterly miserable.
I grew up with a volatile mother who suffered with chronic depression as a result of her own childhood experiences. As a coping mechanism I learnt to shut down my own voice and be the good girl, constantly walking on eggshells to manage the moods of those around me.
This childhood blueprint followed me straight into adulthood. For almost ten years, I stayed in a relationship with a partner whose behaviour was a constant Jekyll and Hyde cycle; an unemotionally unavailable mouse when sober, but volatile when he'd been drinking.
I found myself performing to keep a fake peace, while my own personal power slowly disappeared in a haze of binge drinking and obsessive exercise.
I constantly had anxious thoughts and was obsessed with my appearance. My confidence was at an all time low and I would blush like a ripe tomato every time I spoke up for myself. I avoided using my voice at all costs and would constantly stress over what people thought about me.
I had no idea how my life had ended up like this. I was 27 years old, in a job I hated and in a toxic relationship that had been all but over for many years.
I was completely and utterly suffocated by my own life.
When my father had a major health scare, it jolted me into action. I realised that life is far too short to spend negotiating for the right to be happy. I decided that enough was enough. I started building a different set of muscles; my leaving muscles. I focused on financial independence, passing my driving test and securing the job promotion I deserved. I stopped trying to fix him and started reclaiming myself.
Today, as a certified VITA coach specialising in Women's Empowerment, my mission is to help you break your old inherited childhood patterns, trust your feminine instincts and design a life that belongs entirely to you. You aren't to blame for where you are Queen; you were simply operating from an old map.
Let's draw a new one together.
Why I chose to become the guide I always needed.
I wanted to help other women who had been through a similar experience achieve the things they really wanted and deserved in their lives.
So I embarked on a year long, world-class coaching certification with Layla Martin, where I learned the true art of transformation and became a certified VITA coach specialising in Women's Empowerment.
Today, because of this work, I can quieten my mind at the drop of a hat. I have a healthy, happy relationship with my body, and I no longer need to use alcohol or excessive exercise to escape. I have a quite confidence that allows me to use my voice to help other women, and I run the business I have always dreamt of; feeling calm, centred and free to enjoy time with my children and myself. I have even manifested an incredible romantic relationship that is healthy, loving and supportive.
I am incredibly proud of my accreditation. I have world-class coaching skills, experience, and a toolkit brimming with practices that are powerful enough to bring about life-changing transformation. But I also know that my lived experience is just as valuable in helping you change yours.
I combined my certification with my own journey to create a programme so that no woman has to feel alone on her path to healing, happiness and sovereignty, The incredible women I've had the honour of coaching have been amazed at how naturally they've been able to turn their lives around, letting go of the old blueprints and insecurities that held them back for so long.
Thank you so much for reading. I'm really happy we're connected, and I'm so excited to get to know you.
Lu x